It’s A Root Issue
You net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. – Benjamin Franklin
The problem with how we attack our problems is that we go after the problem. We focus solely on the behavior by making a commitment to start or stop doing something.
You’ve done this too, right? You’ve decided, perhaps even declared, that you were going to change.
- This year I’m going to eat healthily and exercise every day!
- I’m going to stop dating anyone who is mean to me. In fact, I’m not going to date at all!
- I’m tired of wasting my time on social media and comparing my life with everyone else’s. I’m getting off for good this time!
- I’m not going to exaggerate or lie or gossip to get attention or feel better about myself. No more!
- I’m going to read the Bible every morning this whole year!
Whatever your vow was, how did it go?
I would guess not well. Why?
Behavior modification doesn’t work, because the focus is only on modifying behavior. You don’t get to the root of the problem, which is the thought that produces the behavior.
This summer I planted a new Japanese maple tree. Well this is probably my fifth one I have planted over the years and they always die! 😵 But say you have there’s an ugly tree in your yard. You want that tree gone. Finally, you decide the time has come to take care of the problem. So you march into your yard with a small handsaw. You pick an ugly branch and cut it off the tree. You smile and walk back into the house, triumphantly singing a medley of “All I Do Is Win” The next day you are shocked to see that the tree is still standing strong.
I know. The analogy is absurd. You would never try to kill a tree by just removing a branch. Because the branch obviously isn’t the problem. The tree is the problem. Actually, the root system of the tree is the main culprit. If you don’t remove the root system when you cut down the tree, it could still grow back.
Well, if we decide, I’m going to stop yelling at my kids or I’m going to stop isolating myself andliving a lonely life or I’m going to exercise every day, we’re just sawing off a branch. We are ignoring the real problem of the lie we believe and the mental rut we fall into. Attacking only symptoms, not the source.
Thinking I can change a behavior just by removing the behavior is absurd. The behavior isn’t the root problem. The neural pathway that leads me to the behavior is the problem. If I stop a behavior, it will come back, unless I
- remove the lie at the root of the behavior, and
- replace the neural pathway that leads me to the behavior.
Where will we get these new thoughts? Hint: we won’t get them from scrolling through social media posts, listening to our favorite playlist, or phoning a friend for their opinion.
To stop the lies and replace them with truth, we need to look to God’s Word